“When I was 10, we went to England. My mother was shooting a miniseries there… My dad took me to Paris for the weekend. We had the most amazing time. On the plane back to London, he asked me, ‘Do you know why I took you to Paris, only you and me?’ And I said, ‘Why?’ And he said, ‘Because I wanted you to see Paris for the first time with a man who you know will love you for the rest of your life.’”—
Gwyneth Paltrow, Parade - January 17, 1998
This is overwhelming sweet—but more like an almost overripe fruit than saccharine.
“American teenagers, many of whom have weak quantitative skills, are generally naïve about finance. In a 2007 study for Charles Schwab, the financial services company, 62 percent of teenagers believed they were prepared to deal with the financial world after high school…”—The Frugal Teenager, Ready or Not - NYTimes.com
Feminism is a movement of revolutionary change. It demands women take full responsibility for their lives, financially and emotionally. It requires the personal to be political, which means the good of the community, the world, our fellow women and each other’s children may demand that we give up individual desires that are in conflict with this larger good.
Feminism is not easy. Perhaps that is why many women, young and old, find it difficult to rally around it. But making it easier by limiting women’s choices - mainly whether to work or not while raising a child - dangerously dilutes its power.
What is the point of attracting young women to feminism if feminists become simply a bunch of waxen, anorexic, botoxed mannequins, with badly-behaved children, complaining their husbands don’t do enough housework?
Arguing the Western media undermined feminism by narrowing its field to a misrepresentation of the radical feminist is hardly new, and it seems awfully like accepting the imaginings of a misogynist mainstream than a fight against them.
Ditching the hairy-legged lesbian not only capitulates to a culture that requires the traditional family unit to uphold the inequalities of contemporary capitalism, but it also ditches a core message of feminism, that a woman’s value should not be in her beauty, proscribed femininity or heterosexual availability.